Does this sound familiar?
“I know that I need to deal with my eating and my weight… I have been trying… I just keep failing… over and over again. Sometimes I feel so broken… Why do I have so little will power?!”
This was my everyday reality for many painful years as the weight went up in tandem with my unhappiness. All I longed for was support and motivation from someone I could trust, someone who didn’t judge me, who understood exactly what I was going through and believed in me fully.
Thankfully, after almost 20 years of trial and error, dozens of diets, emotional outbursts, anger, sadness and desperation, I finally cracked it. Today my weight is stable: I enjoy my food without guilt, I have a deep appreciation for my body, I no longer turn to the kitchen cupboards to fill my voids and – get this – sometimes, I even forget to eat! This was unheard of before!
Who am I?
I’m Ania Nowicki [pronounced “novitsky”] and I am a qualified Co-Active Coach and a Certified Holistic Health Coach. I additionally have a post-graduate certificate in education. Over the years I’ve spent thousands of hours observing, nurturing, coaching, championing and challenging individuals of all ages. Empowering people is my passion, whether that be by helping them understand themselves better so that they can get through a difficult time, or teaching them how to nourish their body to gain vitality and strength, and, ultimately, to reach their ideal weight.
It makes my heart bleed when I see women suffer because of their obsession with food and hatred of their body as I know that it doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve seen it over and over again; how the right support can radically change a person’s perspective and attitude towards eating. When mind-set is transformed, weight-loss becomes inevitable.
Through my highly personalised one to one coaching service, I provide clients with a safe space for them to understand their emotional eating. I help them redesign their food habits to allow weight to be lost sustainably and enjoyably.
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My Weight Loss Story
As you have read above, my passion for weight-loss comes from my own personal experience, starting as a binge-eating teenager. I still vividly remember the desolation of that time when my eating seemed completely out of control and the weight just kept piling on.
I grew up in a volatile, often violent household where, despite being loved by both parents, their personal battles and clashes, coupled with my brother’s inexhaustible need for attention, led me to develop a deep sense of fear, guilt and loneliness. My parents eventually split when I was 13, which was a great relief for me. Meanwhile, my brother and I each made desperate attempts to cope with our insecurities. For my brother this meant defiance and getting into soft drugs, leading to multiple school expulsions. I chose a different path: burying myself in school work, keeping as low a profile as possible and turning to food to numb myself.
At the age of 17, fiercely defensive and with one foot in adulthood, I lost my father in a car accident. Eight years later, my poor brother, who was never able to reconcile himself with the family break-up or our father’s death, plummeted to the bottom of a cliff in an accident whilst stoned and drunk. My world turned black.
My darling mum disintegrated in her grief. She was the only close family member I had left. It was the darkest, most lonely time in my life. I was just 25.
My confidence fell to an all-time low and my neediness rose to its absolute peak. I felt desolate, abandoned and forsaken. I ended up going back into a relationship with a guy who I knew wasn’t good for me, but who had pursued me relentlessly following our recent break-up. I resisted for four months but then, tired of trying to be strong and just needing to be taken care of, I gave in. In the following five, almost six years I let myself be manipulated, subjugated and overpowered. Here I entered a new phase of my disordered eating as I came to believe that I was worthless unless I was super-skinny. I tried my best to fulfil this expectation, but I was a fake, seeking opportunities to eat in secret and throwing up my food when I was alone. During those years, I carried the burden of anxiety around my eating every moment of every day. It was exhausting and spilled into all other parts of my life.
At the solid age of 30, reinforced by my blossoming fascination in the personal development world, with the help of some generous hearted friends and on the third attempt, I finally gathered the courage to break free and escape my toxic relationship from this man I still loved. It was the scariest and bravest thing I’ve ever done and the moment when I finally claimed my own power.
This was the start of a new and beautiful relationship with food, self-acceptance and my career as a coach.
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My weight loss philosophy
All in all, it took me about 20 years to stabilise my weight and stop addressing my emotional needs with food, food and more food. In my early 20s I discovered the bio-chemical formula to weight-loss and went from being “plump and cuddly” to slender and sexy, but it wasn’t enough. Throughout my 20s my weight continued to fluctuate and caused me enormous anxiety.
I compared myself to every other woman at every opportunity and I was always on a new diet, some of them extreme. At times I was so thin that I couldn’t find clothes small enough to fit me. I hated my body the whole time. I frequently felt hungry and light-headed and felt that I was unjustly being punished. It was only after turning 30 that I had that transformational moment where I found the courage to claim my own power and took massive action, forever changing my relationship with what was in the fridge and on my plate. For several years now my weight has been stable. I have come to accept my perfectly imperfect body and it’s been a long time since I’ve felt guilty, deprived, consumed by hunger or obsessed with food.
My approach to achieving healthy and sustainable weight-loss is as follows:
- I work in partnership with my clients where both parties are equal. We are a team.
- We make a commitment to work together for at least 6 months; it takes time to learn to fully love and accept yourself after years of beating yourself up.
- We never count-calories or points and seldom step on the scales (except occasionally to fulfil our sense of curiosity).
- We focus on the big picture; sustainable weight loss is the result of a rewarding life.
- We build up your sense of self, explore your passions and your purpose in life.
- We focus on health and vitality, not weight-loss; experimenting with different foods and approaches to find the perfect way of eating for you, with your particular needs, in your particular situation.
- We break it down and make it practical. I want you to build on a sense of success, not more failure.
- We learn how to listen to and respect our bodies.Our bodies are wiser than any book or method.
- We celebrate achievements and learn from what didn’t work.
- We are patient and supportive.
- We have fun and create lasting change.
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And now for something completely different!
I’m a curious being and, if you’re like me, you’ll want to know what else there is to this person with a heavy history but lots of smiley pics. I may have had a challenging past but it doesn’t define my life now. The truth is that I’m a die-hard optimist who loves to laugh and thoroughly enjoys silliness. Here are some fun facts about me:
- I’m addicted to Game of Thrones.
- I can read maps proficiently but I struggle with left and right.
- I’m willing to try almost any food if I’m told it’s super healthy.
- I consider myself a flexitarian, which means I eat a bit of everything. I love raw-vegan food – especially desserts -, but vegetarianism doesn’t work for me (believe me, I’ve tried).
- I become a total hippy when I get out in nature; I’m in awe of every flower, plant, creature and the intense beauty of it all.
- In 2011 I played The Wicked Witch in the Wizard of Oz pantomime in a local village hall. I was so evil that I made four children cry so hard they had to leave. It was a really fun role to play!
- I’m super touchy-feely and have to control my impulse to touch everything and everybody.
- I cry easily – from frustration, a sad movie, laughing…
- Most people find going to the cinema with me too embarrassing as I get very involved, laugh loudly, sometimes shout in frustration at the screen and jump sky high at the jumpy bits.
- I have a vast array of weird laughs. People often laugh at my laughs (or look at me in amazement) but I usually don’t notice because I’m too busy enjoying myself!
- I laugh at my own jokes!
- I love experimenting in the kitchen, even when I’m having guests over! It usually works, but sometimes it’s such a disaster I have to throw it away and start again.
- I love kids. I love their innocence and creativity. I love how naturally they learn and how they get joy from simple things.
- I’m a die-hard optimist. I always believe that there’s a way; even when it feels blacker than black, there’s always a light somewhere.
- I’ve always wanted a tattoo but have never been able to decide on what design I want. It would have to be something really meaningful and unique.
- I’m willing to take massive risks for something I believe in. So far, it’s always worked out in one way or another! 🙂
If you’re truly committed to changing your life and your health, I want to help you. I’ve been in your position before, so I know what it’s like to feel stuck and whirling round in a perpetual cycle of negativity. This is why I do the work that I do. I will be your compassionate and supportive coach, biggest cheerleader and accountability partner who ensures that you succeed. We’ll work together to create a balanced, healthy lifestyle that brings your dreams and goals to reality. Food needn’t be your worst frenemy anymore. Just like me, you’ll learn to freely love your food, love your body and love your life.
With love and dedication,